Now before anybody starts throwing old threads at me or assuming my alternator is dead I will save some time

I have read all threads related to sediment/ charge light etc etc and can verify a stable, solid reading of 13V at both batteries when off, steady 14.5V when running confirmed by multimeter over the last couple of days; I have even left the multimeter wired onto the alternator and driven around - it seems my alt is functioning perfectly, as expected because it is fairly new.
The situation is this: I have what appears to be a no-name brand solenoid based split charge relay system installed in my van, it was there when I bought it and I know nothing about it or how exactly it is wired but I absolutely love being able to have a fridge for 3 days of camping.
Whilst camping on the weekend I had the bright idea that I could possibly hook a small coffee machine up to our inverter and have a fresh coffee; bad idea. The machine was rated at 1500Watts and I plugged it into a 300W inverter on very thin wiring connected to the rear cigarette socket because I am an idiot.
Nothing set fire and no fuses appear to be blown but I have certainly caused a problem somewhere...thankfully the wife does not read this forum.
Now I am in a situation where the charge + sediment lights are dimly lighting up intermittently whilst driving or idling.
As stated, the leisure battery is still getting reliably charged by the alternator but I have obviously broken something as these lights have never appeared before....now I cannot trust that the leisure battery is going to be the only source of power when camping so I am a nervous nelly.
The lights are not bright or fully lit and they do not stay on, generally just sort of flashing on and off as we go...alarm bells are ringing in my head.
All info points to a fault/ failure in the split charge relay system but I can't find much more information than that anywhere.
Any hints or tips on how to go about addressing this greatly appreciated! The inline fuse is fine.
Also if anyone has any idea if I am able to replace the solenoid type split charge relay with a voltage sensing unit without messing with the wiring???
I can pick up a redarc brand unit for AUD$85 delivered which is a good brand here in Aus but I've no idea on the wiring whatsoever.
Hopefully this post might help a fellow soul who thinks their alternator has gone; I will keep this updated if it turns out to be the case but all signs point to no.